Understanding 4 Different Male Experiences of Gender Issues
There are 4 main types of male manifestations of gender-related distress.
The classic ROGD kid
Gay male (can also manifest as ROGD)
Autogynephilia (can also manifest as ROGD)
Porn Induced / groomed / sexualised from online content (can also manifest as ROGD)
It does not matter what type you may identify in your son, it is not going to be easy and you need to ensure that you have support for yourself when it comes to dealing with any of these.
If you have noticed any other types, please get in touch and let me know. And thank you for taking the time to watch this.
Angus Fox - Quillette :
Indeed it is very dificult, this is the most disturbing experience I have ever had. I still am not over the shock and confusion that something like this can be happening. I am the mother of a male in his early 30, who fits into all of the 4 categories. Shy, on the spectrum, creative, artistic, lots of trauma from the loss of his father when he was young and very bullied during his childhood and teenage years, and probably as a young adult. About 3 years ago when he told us about his gender issues, he admitted to a porn addction that started as a teenager, then a sex addiction, now that he is gay and the more I learn and observe very possibly AGP, although I have read that most AGP are not gay. What confuses me is that he says he is gay, but has decided to stay in his relationship with his girlfriend who is female. My son was never feminine, he still is not, regardless of how hard he tries, by lowering his voice and wearing womens clothes, make up and jewelry. The way he walks, his manerisms, the things he does and likes are so still him and masculine. Sometimes I think that he also has an addiction to being bullied, obviously not conscious and on purpose.
I am focused on taking care of myself and staying connected to him as much as I can, without hurting myself. I think this is what you mean by focusing on the authentic relationship, but I would really like to know more of what you really mean by "authentic relationship". Obviously we do not live in the same house, but we do have family get togethers several times a year and I have tried to stay connected by phone a video call. Would love to get more insight on this idea of "authentic and nonauthentic relationship". Aslo I would like to thank you for everything you are doing all the info, this short video is especially helpful. I have listened to it at least a dozen times and keep getting more insights. Thank you so much.