This resonates with me. I’m a single mom now, but even when I was with my daughter’s dad (until she was eight) I worked a lot! I’ve always been the breadwinner for this family, and I can see how an attachment bond with me could have been damaged. And my daughter has struggled with attachment since she was eight for sure, because that’s when we left her dad and moved from Canada to the States for my job. Yes I definitely think multiple attachment bonds has been damaged. This has been a perfect storm. Thank you for sharing, it puts a spark under me to work on reattachment with my daughter, which can easy to forget to do sometimes when life gets busy.
I’ve had mixed feelings about attachment because, like so many things it was presented in a very fatalistic way through attachment parenting (“wear that baby or else!!). But I’ve grown to think it’s more important over time, especially when we’re talking about families, e.g. not just about the parent child relationship.
This resonates with me. I’m a single mom now, but even when I was with my daughter’s dad (until she was eight) I worked a lot! I’ve always been the breadwinner for this family, and I can see how an attachment bond with me could have been damaged. And my daughter has struggled with attachment since she was eight for sure, because that’s when we left her dad and moved from Canada to the States for my job. Yes I definitely think multiple attachment bonds has been damaged. This has been a perfect storm. Thank you for sharing, it puts a spark under me to work on reattachment with my daughter, which can easy to forget to do sometimes when life gets busy.
“The duckling is elsewhere” 😆
I’ve had mixed feelings about attachment because, like so many things it was presented in a very fatalistic way through attachment parenting (“wear that baby or else!!). But I’ve grown to think it’s more important over time, especially when we’re talking about families, e.g. not just about the parent child relationship.