The psychologist Erik Erickson’s theory of psychosocial development makes some essential observations about the period of adolescence and identifies the questions at this phase of life as “Who Am I?” and “What can I Be?”. Sasha and Stella examine this developmental period and ask how the concept of gender identity lays atop the teenage struggle for belonging, individuation, sexual development, and autonomy. Links:
The Adolescent Psyche by Richard Frankel https://www.amazon.com/Adolescent-Psy...
Untangled by Lisa Damour: https://www.amazon.com/Untangled-Guid...
Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-Kids...
Trans Activism’s Dangerous Myth of Parental Rejection https://quillette.com/2018/07/20/tran...
Childhood and Society by Erik Erikson: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00...
Extended Notes:
● The process of growing up; although it looks different across cultures, we all have to go through it.
● Stella shares the coming of age ceremonies she did for her children.
● There are 8 stages of “growing up” that we do, according to Erik Erikson:
○ Infancy ○ Toddler ○ Early childhood ○ Middle childhood ○ Adolescence ○ 20s–30s — Seeking intimacy ○ 40s–60s — Stagnation ○ 60s+ — Your legacy
● It’s so important for children to do things with a sense of conviction.
● Why are the adolescent years so turbulent?
● Erik Erikson was the person who coined the phrase, “Identity crisis.”
● Up until 12 years old, everything a parent says is considered “law.” After 12, they turn it off and take in outside influences. This makes sense. Children need this process.
● Children reject everything you stand for because they don’t want to be a clone of you.
● As a mother, Stella says there is nothing that strikes terror in our hearts more when our children are unhappy.
● Once our children are teenagers, is there nothing we can do to help them through this process?
● Parents need to have a working knowledge of what their teenagers are swimming in. This is a vital time to build a stronger relationship with the child, not disconnect from them.
● Do you want to understand where your children are coming from? Make the effort to learn what they’re into.
● Teenagers are agonizing over what to call themselves. It’s difficult. There are a lot of categories to choose from.
● As our sexuality develops, there is some shame around our feelings.
● When it comes to becoming transgender, children are not good at making judgments about long-term things.
● Teenagers sometimes can get wrapped up in the fantasy of blaming someone else for their developmental confusion.
● No one has perfect parents.
● There is a common thread on online forums that parents reject trans children, so it sets the child up to be defensive when they get ready to reveal their true identity.
● So many people are lost in their 20s. That sense of being “lost” is a very vital time in finding yourself.
● Stella shares the differences between parents and their financial commitments in Ireland vs. the U.S. It appears U.S. children need more of their parents’ financial support throughout their mid-20s.
● There is a struggle for children to become independent from their parents in the West.
Looks interesting, although I wonder how you define "gender identity".
Your previous post -- "Navigating Ideological Currents" -- asserts that "gender identity [is] a nebulous concept for which there is, as yet, no evidence." Yet your "Gender Framework" document asserts that: "‘Gender identity’: An internal sense of one’s own gender, which may or may not be at odds with one’s biological sex."
https://stellaomalley.substack.com/p/navigating-ideological-currents-why
https://genspect.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/The-Gender-Framework-Draft-One.pdf
I think you need to be consistent, that you need to call a spade an effen shovel. If you're "hunting the snark" then you're not likely to find it if you can't even say what it looks like, if you have contradictory definitions for the critter.
As I had mentioned before, I think you have to SAY what you mean by the term, and that the most rational and logically coherent definition is analogous to what the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy [SEP] more or less DEFINES "personal identity" to be. Paraphrasing them to offer a definition for "gender identity":
SEP [paraphrased]: "Outside of philosophy, [gender identity’] usually refers to [sexually dimorphic personality traits] to which we feel a special sense of attachment or ownership. Someone’s [gender identity] in this sense consists of those [feminine and masculine personality traits] she takes to 'define her as a person' or 'make her the person she is', and which distinguish her from others."
https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/identity-personal/#ProPerIde