Haha! I love that about parents not being the first to say something. I hear my daughter say she had a lightbulb moment when so-and-so said this, when in fact, I said it 8 months ago! All about the long game. Thanks, Stella!
I'm wondering if you have some for parents of possible desisters as well? I've seen a drastic shift in my daughter over recent months, but none of us in the family are sure and none of us have dared to outright ask so far. It started with her giving permission to use female pronouns again while adding they still weren't her preference (we'd all been avoiding any pronouns at all), continued with removing the trans flags from her room, and continued again with introducing herself by her birth name on multiple occasions. Now there are earrings, too (but still male clothes). Overall, her personality is coming back and the persona seems to be on its way out.
We're all itching to ask her "so, are you done with this now?", but something is stopping us. One sibling believes she is still deep into gender but hiding it, but the rest of the family tentatively hopes it's over.
Can we ask? When? Or is it better to just let it rest and operate as if it is over now?
Haha! I love that about parents not being the first to say something. I hear my daughter say she had a lightbulb moment when so-and-so said this, when in fact, I said it 8 months ago! All about the long game. Thanks, Stella!
That was great advice!
I'm wondering if you have some for parents of possible desisters as well? I've seen a drastic shift in my daughter over recent months, but none of us in the family are sure and none of us have dared to outright ask so far. It started with her giving permission to use female pronouns again while adding they still weren't her preference (we'd all been avoiding any pronouns at all), continued with removing the trans flags from her room, and continued again with introducing herself by her birth name on multiple occasions. Now there are earrings, too (but still male clothes). Overall, her personality is coming back and the persona seems to be on its way out.
We're all itching to ask her "so, are you done with this now?", but something is stopping us. One sibling believes she is still deep into gender but hiding it, but the rest of the family tentatively hopes it's over.
Can we ask? When? Or is it better to just let it rest and operate as if it is over now?