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Muffin Mama's avatar

I listened to your conversation and was pleased to hear you discuss so much. Genspect and Let Women Speak have parallel missions and are definitely stronger together. As a woman, and a mother of a gender questioning daughter, I would love for both communities to totally support each other. Sometimes I think feminism can be a good avenue out of being gender questioning. I have recently outed myself as a TERF to my daughter and it went better than I expected. Well done Stella! :)

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Stella O'Malley's avatar

I'm happy to hear your 'outing' went well - it often does!! xxx

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Frankie's avatar

I thought you did brilliantly! I'd be lying if I said I understood all the dynamics going on behind the scenes.

About the man in the dress, I can understand both sides but ultimately I can't say I care. I've listened to several podcasts with Phil Illy in them and he seems to shed valuable light on AGP in a very normal manner. I think it's very important that "we" don't do what "they" do and blanket-condemn everyone who looks like they might be "affiliated with the other side." No reds, TERFs, or AGPs under the bed scare stuff. This culture war stuff is getting a bit too hot on the "TERF" side.

You were very down to earth. Although you are a public figure now, you always act like a normal person. I appreciate that.

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Stella O'Malley's avatar

Thanks xx

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Not Carole Hersee's avatar

Stella I have had little idea of the further massive challenges you have gone on to face in the last few years - I just skim-watched that convo - it is very clear you are so aware and forgiving of human imperfections and inconsistencies, even that of a 'holier than thou' stance. I hope one day in the next year I will meet you again within the Genspect campaign . The support and acknowledgement you have given my family has stayed with us. Gratitude to you always.

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Stella O'Malley's avatar

Thank you very much, that means a lot xxx

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Rainy's avatar

You know, about the man in the velvet dress, I really believe that’s one of those cases Stella where you’re damned if you do, and you’re damned if you don’t. And I would have done exactly as you all did at the Genspect conference; kicking him out would have felt confrontational to me if he wasn’t acting unusual or threatening.

And about the security thing... I was actually worried about that too, but I just knew you guys are smart enough to have excellent security 😊 when I first came to the states 5 years ago (from Vancouver, BC), I was petrified! I still am a bit nervous... I certainly think twice here before flippin’ the bird, lol! I just love how you guys pushed through that fear, while keeping it ultra safe, to hold this important conference come hell or high water! 😊❤️👍 thank you!!!

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Stella O'Malley's avatar

Thanks xx

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Ann's avatar

Very interesting. I agree with the concept of uniting is most beneficial. You are both doing amazing things in this fight. I haven’t followed Kelly much, although I am aware of her and support her work as a feminist. As a mom it concerns me. It seems to me that RODG girls are often portrayed as victims and with empathy. But, RODG boys seem yo get portrayed as perverted and deranged. As the mom of a non medicalized RODG 18 year old boy, it scares me.

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Stella O'Malley's avatar

I couldn't agree more about how girls are depicted as victims and boys as perpetrators of gender ideology. It's not at all fair. I'm in the middle of writing something about this. The boys are often just as vulnerable, and many are a good deal more vulnerable, than the girls.

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