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Mar 5·edited Mar 5Liked by Stella O'Malley

Thank you to you and your team for all you do and exposing the truth. You are saving lives. It is truly appreciated.

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Thank you

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Mar 5Liked by Stella O'Malley

Thank you for continuing to build on and expand the research and contemporary journalism you and your peers are actively connecting. Thank you for not simply repeating catch phrases, but doing the active work of research

I first found you when my daughter was ROGD and I didn’t know what that met.

In three months, I’d read all the studies you cited and listened to all Of the podcast. That helped me in so many ways, especially not to accept the clinic’s assessment without question.

But what changed my daughter’s mind was a visit from our former babysitter, who self-identifies as a detransitioned lesbian. E spent the evening with us playing board games, eating dinner, and then compassionately explaining in her 20s what she has been through and what she is still going through.

The next day, my daughter said she didn’t want T, wanted the blocker removed.

A year later, my Queer child is living with their natural biology, expressing themselves fluidly, and that’s the key: expression. Not changing the body at age 15.

I am so grateful for the digestible, well researched, and life changing education you’ve provided for us parents.

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Amazing story. Thank you for sharing xx

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Mar 5Liked by Stella O'Malley

The timing of everything, the news stories, articles, studies, documentaries the WPATH files and I anticipate the final CASS review, has been fucking phenomenal. I imagine it has been so much effort behind the scenes in releasing everything to make the impact needed and I am grateful to everyone.

Thank you for seeing our struggling children and knowing they deserve better care than what they are being given.

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Thanks xx

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Thank you. I found you in 2021 when my very adult male child told me to study, so I could understand that he is a lesbian, even though that thought had never occurred to me. Unfortunately, I he wasn't open to help from me. He was in the hands of medical professionals, including psychiatric doctors, therapists, and gender clinics. None of that stopped the prescription of estrogen. He left his body by choice last year. I heard you are atheist. I'm not. I've had some very powerful spiritual experiences shortly before he died and since.

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Mar 5·edited Mar 5Author

I’m so very sorry. This is a wretched movement that rips up families and gentle, vulnerable people. It’s devastating. I hope you have the support you need to help you on your way. I sometimes say I’m an atheist but it’s more accurate to describe me as agnostic. I’m aware that there is much inexplicable out there xxx

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Mar 5Liked by Stella O'Malley

Yes, lol, those labels can be fluid. Whatever labels we put on ourselves is really just a costume.

I described myself as atheist or agnostic after being very Christian & now I regularly "communicate" with my guides, my spirit child, and my well ancestors. 🙈 My child's death, followed by my father's death threw me into a dark night. I am starting to come out of that alchemically changed, as a more reverent person, a beginner in a faith journey. I have so much respect for what you do.

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Thank you. I truly hope you have spirits looking after you xx

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Mar 5Liked by Stella O'Malley

Hecate, No words for your loss. How can there be?

Studies show most gender confused people have multiple other emotional and social issues before they latch onto gender as their savor. And even when a non affirming therapist works with them, gender takes up most of the focus, rather than all the rest of their issues that are under that.

I hope the spiritual experiences you've had around this, has helped you to deal with your loss and feelings.

Rene Jax

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Mar 6Liked by Stella O'Malley

I completely agree with you. I am feeling a lot of support here on earth from friends, some family and even Internet aquaintances like yourself, as well as from the other side. I have the support I need and am starting to emerge from the cocoon of deep grieving. Thank you for your kind words.

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Mar 7Liked by Stella O'Malley

Thank you so very much!

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Are there detransition networks that parents can reach out to for guidance on how to facilitate a detransition for their own child?

I am thinking about the approach from one of the psychologists on the report who had young adults interact with detransitioners and later they desisted from surgery.

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