This says it all and is what it is all about at this point. I shared this article in several places. I've heard you use the Peter Pan metaphor before and meant to make note of it. Thank you!
Thank you for all your work. Researching the science behind all this is so difficult when academic discussions are silenced, literature is spare or of poor quality, and definitions are muddied.
I am gay, and I just had the most distressing conversation with a trans person, and this was exactly the essay that captures this.
I was online thread where trans people were ranting that gays are much more vicious than conservative straight men in denying transgenderism, which they find to be homophobic. I was there to try to understand their perspective. After all, we have a historical allyship with them, and we know what it’s like to be born differently from majority of society.
After some arguments, they said the most insane yet heartbreaking thing I’ve heard anyone say: “Not sure where you’re getting the idea that people don’t know who they’re attracted to until puberty.”
Stella, they confirmed they’ve never experienced sexual attraction. They want to be called gay because they’re attracted to men, an attraction similar to before puberty. “There are more kinds of attraction than just sexual!”
I was speechless. Poets throughout civilisations struggled to capture the confusing, wonderful mess of falling in love. From my experience, sexual awakening was also when I shifted from thinking about myself to thinking about others.
Sexual attraction makes no sense to anyone who hasn’t experienced them. It’s disgusting, irrational, and chaotic, and the rewards are so difficult to describe, especially to people who are essentially children.
Indeed, never in human history do we have “adults” who skipped puberty. My culture had indigenous peoples with roles and identities that could be interpreted as trans through Western lenses today, but these chemicals and medical procedures are extremely new, and have severed these trans-identifying people from all of human history. It is no wonder that they constantly feel like the world is out to get them.
I am angry. I am heartbroken. Ultimately they have no idea what they missed due to drugs and interventions created by medical practitioners.
At the same time, I am so angry that gay has been redefined to remove sexual attraction from same-sex attraction. People sacrificed everything for the freedom to love. And these people, who are at war with puberty, identify as part of the LGBT? And we’re being called homophobic?!
This says it all and is what it is all about at this point. I shared this article in several places. I've heard you use the Peter Pan metaphor before and meant to make note of it. Thank you!
Thanks very much
This is just brilliant Thankyou Stella a really important document and way to positively state importance of letting g children develop and grow
Still breaks my heart
Thank you. God bless you.
Thank you Stella.💗.
I’ll log on to add my signature.
Just signed this and sent it to all my family and friends.
Thank you xxx
Hi Stella,
Thank you for all your work. Researching the science behind all this is so difficult when academic discussions are silenced, literature is spare or of poor quality, and definitions are muddied.
I am gay, and I just had the most distressing conversation with a trans person, and this was exactly the essay that captures this.
I was online thread where trans people were ranting that gays are much more vicious than conservative straight men in denying transgenderism, which they find to be homophobic. I was there to try to understand their perspective. After all, we have a historical allyship with them, and we know what it’s like to be born differently from majority of society.
After some arguments, they said the most insane yet heartbreaking thing I’ve heard anyone say: “Not sure where you’re getting the idea that people don’t know who they’re attracted to until puberty.”
Stella, they confirmed they’ve never experienced sexual attraction. They want to be called gay because they’re attracted to men, an attraction similar to before puberty. “There are more kinds of attraction than just sexual!”
I was speechless. Poets throughout civilisations struggled to capture the confusing, wonderful mess of falling in love. From my experience, sexual awakening was also when I shifted from thinking about myself to thinking about others.
Sexual attraction makes no sense to anyone who hasn’t experienced them. It’s disgusting, irrational, and chaotic, and the rewards are so difficult to describe, especially to people who are essentially children.
Indeed, never in human history do we have “adults” who skipped puberty. My culture had indigenous peoples with roles and identities that could be interpreted as trans through Western lenses today, but these chemicals and medical procedures are extremely new, and have severed these trans-identifying people from all of human history. It is no wonder that they constantly feel like the world is out to get them.
I am angry. I am heartbroken. Ultimately they have no idea what they missed due to drugs and interventions created by medical practitioners.
At the same time, I am so angry that gay has been redefined to remove sexual attraction from same-sex attraction. People sacrificed everything for the freedom to love. And these people, who are at war with puberty, identify as part of the LGBT? And we’re being called homophobic?!
I’m crying Stella. The world is hurting.
Can I translate this into Spanish and share it? This, not the Memorandum. Althoght that should probably be translated, too...